Who are you Lord? I AM the God of Marriage, there is a reason that I hate divorce. Eph 5:21-33

Just think – God made Eve to be the one from which not only the earth would be

Your marriage reveals me to the world

populated, and not only from which heaven would be populated, but from which God himself would create a divine bride (The Church) with whom they would reign over the universe eternally.  God designed marriage to reflect what he had in mind all along for himself in eternity.  With that in mind what can we glean in regard to Christian marriages from this passage?

Eph 5:21Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Wives and Husbands

22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.


Who are you Lord?

I AM the God who created marriage.   I AM represented in marriage.  In marriage I have given the world a picture of myself.  Only in the sanctity of a marriage between a man and a woman are all my immutable characteristics revealed between them both to humanity, including to your children, that they may know what I am like.  Only in the sanctity of marriage between a man and a woman is the picture of Christ and his bride- the church, complete.  Only in the sanctity of marriage between a man and a woman can I fill heaven with souls.

Now Submit yourselves to each other, men, in love, submit to your wife by laying down your ambitions to please yourself and live for her needs regardless of how you feel.   You as a proper leader in the Lord is to look out for those who have been placed in your care above your own pet desires.  When she feels secure in your care and love, then her response will be natural and not forced.  Woman, submit yourself to your husband by giving him due respect and honor for his position over you in the Lord regardless of how you feel as to whether he “deserves it or not”.   A person under the watch care of another will not take advantage of them, but live to support them in their duties and responsibilities.   When he feels your respect and admiration, he will try to earn your admiration more.   Why do you respect and admire me- your Lord?  Why do you love me- your savior?   Yes I lived up to and earned these feelings you have for me, but positionally your spouse has the same claim to your love and respect as well.  Love her as I love you -unconditionally.  Respect him as I respect you – unconditionally. 

The natural outworking of the curse is countered here in Christ as couples live by the Spirit.  Because of the curse, a woman wants to usurp the authority of her husband, so in Christ she is to respect and live under his authority and not undermine it.  Because of the curse, a husband wants to rule over his woman, so in Christ he is to live to care for her not dominate her.  We have so many failed marriages because we allow our default mode of humanistic thinking and worldly advice to overrule God’s thoughts in this matter.  We live to look out for our own interests, contrary to the Bible, and not for the interests of others.


In creation nothing represents the Godhead better than marriage.  Man and wife, the two being one, just like the Godhead – multiple yet one.  Imagine the Godhead volitionally and willingly loving and caring for each other 100 percent, all along knowing that the others are doing the same.  We too have all our “needs” met in Christ which frees us to live totally loving with Agape love toward our spouses. Then they too, totally content in Christ’s love for them, can meet our needs as well.  The reason we do not, as fallen beings, is because we fear rejection and disappointment thus we hold back from each other to protect ourselves from hurt.  However, “Perfect love casts out fear”.  With Christ meeting our needs, we can focus on the other person without fear, whether they reciprocate or not.  In essence each person can give 100 percent of themselves to meet the needs of the other in faith, regardless.

I know, I know, Good luck.  If we could only disconnect from all the ungodly influence in our lives as to what marriage is supposed to look like.  We as Americans always frown upon fixed or arranged marriages, we want kids to fall in love with another based on feelings etc.  However, the Biblical thought on love is not feelings but action oriented.  As we do acts of love, the feelings will come.  When there is no option to divorce, then couples work through problems –regardless of “feelings” unlike in the world today.  Just saying…

More to come,



About strostrud

Missionary with New Tribes Mission since 1989
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